Sex After 40: Real Talk with Sexologist Chantelle Otten
Feeling disconnected from your desire? You’re not alone.
In this deeply empowering episode, we sit down with award-winning sexologist Chantelle Otten to talk about real sex, real bodies, and real solutions for women navigating low libido, vaginal dryness, and intimacy issues during perimenopause and beyond.
We explore:
- Why sex can feel like a chore (and how to shift that)
- Practical steps to rebuild desire and confidence
- Navigating body image changes with compassion
- How to talk to your partner about sex—without shame
- The truth about responsive desire (hint: it’s more common than you think)
- Beginner tips for exploring toys and solo pleasure
- Why sensuality starts long before the bedroom
Whether you're in a long-term relationship or starting over, this conversation is packed with supportive, practical advice to help you reconnect with your body and bring joy back to your intimate life.
💬 If you’ve ever thought, “I want to want sex again, but I don’t know where to start” — this episode is for you.
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For more resources from Chantelle Otten:
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Disclaimer: This podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it do not constitute medical, health care or other professional advice. Information is provided for educational and entertainment purposes only.
00:00:00 – Intro - It starts with you
00:01:10 – Meet Chantelle Otten: Sexologist & Shame-Breaker
00:02:11 – What Even Is a Sexologist?
00:03:05 – A Look Inside a Sex Therapist’s Real-Life Routine
00:04:04 – Why Sex Changes in Menopause
00:08:07 – Body Image After 40
00:09:39 – Sexual Self-Esteem: Loving Your Naked Body
00:14:57 – What to Do When You Don’t Want Sex
00:15:20 – Responsive Desire: You’re Not Broken
00:19:32 – The “Menopause Appointment” You Need
00:21:04 – Sex Toys 101: Where to Start
00:25:00 – Best Sex Toys, Games & Books
00:27:03 – Why Scheduling Sex Works
00:29:16 – How Long It Really Takes to Get Turned On
00:30:26 – Redefining Foreplay
00:32:08 – Orgasm Confessions
00:32:40 – The Orgasm Gap
00:36:12 – Raising Kids With Better Sex Ed
00:40:40 – When Your Teen Finds Porn
00:43:56 – Vaginal Dryness: You’re Not Alone
00:45:45 – The Lube, Moisturizer & Hormone Combo
00:47:25 – Erectile Dysfunction & Aging Partners
00:50:20 – Intimacy After Infidelity
00:52:07 – Scared to Date Again After 40?
00:52:50 – The Lost Art of Seduction
00:54:37 – What No One Tells You About Sex Therapy
00:55:55 – Advice to My Younger Self
00:56:43 – Final Thoughts: You Deserve This
Sex after 40
Perimenopause and libido
Menopause and intimacy
Reignite desire in midlife
Sex therapist advice
Low libido in women
Women’s sexual wellness
Confidence in the bedroom
Responsive desire explained
How to talk about sex
Sex toys over 40
Midlife relationships
